Few words for dads anniversary

19th May 2013

Ten yrs ago today I sat in my room writing a letter to my dad. I was 18 at the time. I, like the rest of my family had no idea what the next ten yrs would bring. It's very painful to look back at those first years when dad left us. They were filled with a lot of tears, raw emotion and heartache. I wrote to him to tell him how much he was loved and how much he would be missed. I had wished at that time that I had taken more time to tell him that. Since then I tell him every day, numerous times a day that I love him and always miss him. I speak to him constantly in my mind during the day and I still turn to him for comfort and support on the hard days. He thought us so many things when he was alive and was all about trying to give me a heads up on the big bad world. The things he thought me have carried me through the last ten yrs. He taught me never to be afraid to show love for your family in anyway. I thank him for teaching him how to love and adore my own children like he did us.i tell them all the time how special they are to me.

 They've helped me turn into the person I always wanted to be. I know he sent them to me to fill some of my broken heart. Karl, Toni, mam and I have a very close bond since dad passed away. Over these ten yrs he's given us a constant connection to each other.one that keeps us all supporting each other. What I'm trying to say is coach lives on in everyone of us. I see him in my own children and feel his 
Love all the time. I'm very proud of my mam, Karl,Toni and i in what we've achieved in the last ten yrs. we've all had to rebuild our lives without the one person who was the head of our family. He may not be physically here but in all our hearts he's still the number 1 man carrying his family through life. Everyone has their own memories of Coach.
To me this is who he was. My dad. My hero, and now our guardian angel.

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