Aspergers is a major part of my family's life. My daughter Mia has aspergers. She is 8. She was diagnosed at four yrs of age and we still learn something new about her aspergers everyday. She's very bright and an amazing little girl but unfortunately she is crippled with anxiety daily. It rules here
Life. I have tried so many things to help her but am now on my last hope before medication may have to be talked about. She is seeing a psychiatrist at the moment and she is trying cognitive behavioural therapy with Mia. In the past I have tried play therapy, homeopathy remedies, stories, psychologists, occupational therapy, autism courses, google, home strategies. You name it ive tried it. I know her anxiety will never go away but I want her to be able to cope with daily life and be happy in herself, when she has anxiety free days it's so nice to see her calm and happy as her mood swings and anxiety rule the dynamic in the house. I feel if I had to put her on medication I would have failed her in some way.  There is a lot of questions in my head about Mia. Constantly. I only wish she had my daughter Ava's confidence and easy going attitude. Ava is amazing to Mia. She couldn't ask for a better sister. Aspergers affects our whole family were very strong because of it it's thought us to be a strong family and take problems head on. Were all a good team.

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